Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex    by John Gray Order:  USA  Can Quill, 2004 (1992) Hardcover, Paperback, Audio, CD Read an Excerpt     Reviewed by Kim Atchue-Cusella Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus illustrates the differences between the ways that men and women communicate, differences that can cause rifts in relationships. Dr. John Gray has spent years listening to such cases, resulting in this book of advice to couples. The first seven chapters discuss how men and women listen to each other, how they can motivate each other, and a variety of other interesting topics covering differences between men and women. Chapter Eight covers the differences in their emotional needs. It breaks down twelve kinds of love: the man's top six and the woman's top six. Then Dr. Gray proceeds to compare items in these lists. For example, the first is that she needs caring and he needs trust. Gray tells us that when a husband shows concern for his wife's happiness and her welfare, she trusts him more. Chapter Ten tells how to score points with the opposite sex. It gives men 101 ways to make women feel appreciated by doing little things. For example, to surprise her with a note or poem. One way, in which the author points out that a woman can score points with her man is by simply being happy when he comes home. Chapter Eleven resonated most with me. Here, Dr. Gray shows men and women how to communicate their feelings by writing a 'love letter'. He gives the example of a man who overslept and forgot to bring his daughter to the dentist (his wife wrote expressing why she was angry and how she expected them to resolve the situation). Examples of different scenarios show how such letters make it easier for couples to sit down, think about the situation that happened, and resolve the issue before it turns into an argument. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is not for everyone, since both parties have to want to give in a relationship for the book's advice to be effective. Dr. John Gray acknowledges that arguments are going to happen, but also explains (and gives examples on) how to keep a relationship warm. Even those with a strong relationship could learn something from his book. Note: Opinions expressed in reviews and articles on this site are those of the author(s) and not necessarily those of BookLoons. Find more NonFiction books on our Shelves or in our book Reviews